{"id":59,"date":"2014-11-26T00:39:10","date_gmt":"2014-11-26T00:39:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sexbuddyguide.com\/?p=59"},"modified":"2014-11-29T17:23:34","modified_gmt":"2014-11-29T17:23:34","slug":"chapter10-how-to-have-multiple-open-relationships-or-sex-buddies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sexbuddyguide.com\/blog\/chapter10-how-to-have-multiple-open-relationships-or-sex-buddies\/","title":{"rendered":"Chapter 10 – Maintaining Multiple Open Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"MaintainingAs I mentioned previously, if you\u2019re going to venture into the world of open relationships, you shouldn\u2019t sell yourself short by limiting yourself to just one. One of the best strategies to ensure that you get the variety and frequency of sexual experiences you want is to maintain multiple open relationships or sex buddies at once<\/span>. This can be tricky, but it\u2019s totally doable. You should make this one of your highest priorities, otherwise sooner or later you will find yourself in a bind. If you only have one sex buddy, if she gets sick, goes on vacation, or she just isn\u2019t in the mood when you are, you\u2019ll be in no better shape than you were before you ventured into sex dating. Plus, sooner or later, you\u2019re bound to get bored. These strategies are a surefire way to make sure that your sex life is as exciting and active as it can possibly be.
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Start With the Ground Rules<\/h3>\n

At the beginning of every new open relationship, you should discuss expectations with your sex buddy, and set up mutually agreeable ground rules. If you can\u2019t come to an agreement about what these rules should be, it\u2019s a sign that you probably shouldn\u2019t hook up, so pay attention to how she reacts as you talk. The biggest mistake guys make during this phase is being too nice. Of course you should be kind and polite, but don\u2019t be wishy-washy. Be firm and honest about what you want. In this case, that means telling her that you enjoy having multiple sex partners, and that she won\u2019t be the only woman you\u2019re hooking up with. This means that your spare time will be divided, and she won\u2019t be able to assume that you\u2019ll come running any time she calls. You can soften this by letting her know that you\u2019re totally cool with her having lots of sex partners, and don\u2019t expect her to drop everything and run any time you want to hook up.<\/p>\n

Keep Things Fresh by Rotating Who You\u2019re With<\/h3>\n

Even without the trappings of a traditional relationship, if you\u2019re always having sex with the same person, you\u2019re going to get bored quickly. If you\u2019ve got several open relationships, rotating through your sex partners will keep things fresh and exciting with all of them for a lot longer. This isn\u2019t just good for you, it\u2019s good for them. The more excited you are to see them when you hook up, the better the sex will be for both of you.<\/p>\n

Keep In Touch In Between<\/h3>\n

While it\u2019s true that you don\u2019t owe your sex buddies the sort of regular phone calls and texts, you also need to remember that out of sight is out of mind. If you drop the ball and never contact your sex buddies to say hi or let them know you\u2019re looking forward to your next hook up, they\u2019ll probably forget you exist. If you\u2019re done with them, this isn\u2019t a problem, but if you liked the sex and still want more, you may find that after a month of no communication has passed, they\u2019ve found other guys to fill their time and can\u2019t fit you in. Don\u2019t overdo it; you don\u2019t want her to get the wrong idea and assume you\u2019re looking for more than sex, but be in touch.
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Don\u2019t Encourage Jealousy or Emotional Dependency<\/h3>\n

Some guys seem to get off on making their sex buddies jealous or emotionally dependent on them, even if they\u2019re not interested in them for anything beyond sex. I get it, it\u2019s a power trip. It makes you feel desirable. But it can also lead to disaster. Don\u2019t screw up a good thing by encouraging these behaviors. This means you shouldn\u2019t ever bait her with excessive talk about your other sex buddies in order to get a rise out of her. It also means that you should avoid conversations and dates that are too emotionally intimate and lead to deep talks and personal sharing. And whatever you do, don\u2019t snuggle up with her and spend the night after you\u2019ve had sex. These are things boyfriends do to promote bonding. If this happens, she may very well start trying to move things in the direction of a romantic relationship. Some women might even fly into a jealous rage and attempt to contact the other women you\u2019re seeing. It can get ugly quickly.<\/p>\n

Make Sure You\u2019re Making It Worthwhile<\/h3>\n

In order to successfully maintain multiple open relationships, you\u2019ve got to make sure you\u2019re making each hookup a worthwhile experience for your sex buddies. If the relationship is purely sex, and the sex isn\u2019t satisfying for her, she\u2019ll be gone in no time. So if you\u2019re enjoying what she\u2019s doing for you, make sure you give as well as you get. A guy who takes a woman\u2019s pleasure as seriously as he takes his own is a rare thing, and if you\u2019re that guy, you\u2019re going to be very popular on the sex dating scene. If she\u2019s having an awesome time in bed with you, she\u2019s going to keep coming back for more. Plus, she\u2019s probably going to reward you by putting in a lot more effort to ensure that you\u2019re having a good time than she would for a guy who was doing a lousy job at getting her off.<\/p>\n

Stay Active On Several Open Relationship Dating Sites<\/h3>\n

This is of the utmost importance. No matter how many open relationships you\u2019re juggling, never slack off on the open relationship sites. There is no such thing as too many options. You want as long of a list of names and phone numbers of women looking for casual sex as you can possibly get. So keep your profile active. Check in daily. Make occasional changes to your profile pictures and description, just to keep it fresh. Any time a new woman pops up in your area, drop her a note immediately. This will make sure that you stay high in the site\u2019s search rankings, and it will also give you a competitive edge over the other guys on the site.<\/p>\n

Yes, all of this takes a little bit of work, but remember that it\u2019s all for a good cause. Think about all the time you\u2019ve wasted watching stupid TV shows or hanging out in bars over the years. Isn\u2019t making sure that you\u2019ve got the sex life you\u2019ve always dreamed of a much more worthy use of your time?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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